BIGEarl
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How much complaining is enough? Sorry folks, but I’m very grumpy and feel justified.
This is probably less of a hike report than it is a statement of sincere concern coming from events that occurred during a hike.
Today, I climbed Tecumseh with a friend that needs a few more to complete the 4000 Footers. She was hiking with us earlier in the year but injured her leg and is now ready to once again hike. So, I’ll do some re-hikes and enjoy all of them.
Any of you that were lucky enough to be on the trails today know how great the day was. We hiked from the ski area lot to the summit and back. A short round trip to make sure Jennifer was back in the game. We didn’t try to play beat-the-clock going up or down, we just hiked at a leisurely pace. Everything was going great until approximately half way down.
We came upon a father and his two children. The Father was quite open with the fact he planned to have his son become the youngest member of the 4000 Footer Club ever. He had similar comments about the little girl. These two children were on a forced march to serve the ego of their abusive father. I can think of no other way to accurately represent the father’s behavior. At some point the line that separates acceptable parenting from child abuse gets crossed. Clearly, in my opinion (to which I am entitled), the line was crossed with this individual. The father described a hiking plan that included approximately 14 additional mountains this year for the son. He also indicated the plan was to finish all within the coming year. At that point, my comment was “I hope the children still want to hike after you’re finished with them”. The comment coming from the father was, “there has been some complaining”. Well, how much complaining is needed? If the individual can intimidate a small child into hiking a mountain for his own entertainment, what are his behavioral limits? All things considered, complaining may bring serious consequences to the children.
Important details I didn’t point out - the son is 5 years old and the daughter is 3 years old, and the father is keeping hiking scorecards on both. As the father talked, the boy stared at me nearly the full time. There was no happiness in his face. His eyes seemed to be shouting Take Me With You as we left and continued down the trail. I looked back over my shoulder more than once and the boy kept watching me. Clearly, the children were not enjoying themselves.
Unfortunately, the 4000 Footer Committee evidently tracks this statistic. If this is true, please change. It seems this particular statistic can only be important to an out-of-control parent as seems to be the case here. The AMC should certainly not encourage this sort of abusive behavior.
I know this is not a unique case, but with a change to the policies this behavior may diminish.
As far as the general hike is concerned the trail was in great shape, no blow downs, and a good number of happy folks enjoying the day. And, Jennifer is back in the game!
This is probably less of a hike report than it is a statement of sincere concern coming from events that occurred during a hike.
Today, I climbed Tecumseh with a friend that needs a few more to complete the 4000 Footers. She was hiking with us earlier in the year but injured her leg and is now ready to once again hike. So, I’ll do some re-hikes and enjoy all of them.
Any of you that were lucky enough to be on the trails today know how great the day was. We hiked from the ski area lot to the summit and back. A short round trip to make sure Jennifer was back in the game. We didn’t try to play beat-the-clock going up or down, we just hiked at a leisurely pace. Everything was going great until approximately half way down.
We came upon a father and his two children. The Father was quite open with the fact he planned to have his son become the youngest member of the 4000 Footer Club ever. He had similar comments about the little girl. These two children were on a forced march to serve the ego of their abusive father. I can think of no other way to accurately represent the father’s behavior. At some point the line that separates acceptable parenting from child abuse gets crossed. Clearly, in my opinion (to which I am entitled), the line was crossed with this individual. The father described a hiking plan that included approximately 14 additional mountains this year for the son. He also indicated the plan was to finish all within the coming year. At that point, my comment was “I hope the children still want to hike after you’re finished with them”. The comment coming from the father was, “there has been some complaining”. Well, how much complaining is needed? If the individual can intimidate a small child into hiking a mountain for his own entertainment, what are his behavioral limits? All things considered, complaining may bring serious consequences to the children.
Important details I didn’t point out - the son is 5 years old and the daughter is 3 years old, and the father is keeping hiking scorecards on both. As the father talked, the boy stared at me nearly the full time. There was no happiness in his face. His eyes seemed to be shouting Take Me With You as we left and continued down the trail. I looked back over my shoulder more than once and the boy kept watching me. Clearly, the children were not enjoying themselves.
Unfortunately, the 4000 Footer Committee evidently tracks this statistic. If this is true, please change. It seems this particular statistic can only be important to an out-of-control parent as seems to be the case here. The AMC should certainly not encourage this sort of abusive behavior.
I know this is not a unique case, but with a change to the policies this behavior may diminish.
As far as the general hike is concerned the trail was in great shape, no blow downs, and a good number of happy folks enjoying the day. And, Jennifer is back in the game!
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