I distilled it down years ago, unless I am pulling my winter gear in on a sled and setting up a basecamp to day hike from, i pick my days and do long dayhikes and skip the overnights until conditions are warmer. My -30 F caribou bag is a warm thing but its darn close to 9 pounds and even with a compression sack it eats up half the volume of my winter load monster pack. IMHO To get down to a reasonable pack weight for cold conditions requires compromises in safety ,very expensive gear, or the employ of sherpas.
Many folks like myself have come to the conclusion that we may have the gear and the training but rapidly loose the motivation for winter camping. Much as I like winter daytime conditions, the 15 to 17 hours of darkness in the winter doesn't fully offset the 7 to 8 hours of daylight. Its enjoyable with a group but once the sun goes down the motivation is to get in the bag and stay in it until the morning with one or two very cold bathroom breaks at night or the gymnastics of peeing in bottle. I would much rather go fast and light for a long dayhike starting and ending with a headlamp. By picking my days I dayhiked all the 4Ks in NH except a night at Zealand hut to hit Bond and West Bond.
Realize for some gearing up for winter camping is great escapism as a break from the routine world, they get a buzz off the planning and acquisition of the gear even though its likely that the gear will not get used much. Realistically my Caribou bag probably has less than 15 nights on it in 25 years. I got a great deal on it long ago but expect not many folks would have to space to store it and would have gotten rid of it long ago.
Lot to be said to rent winter gear and decide if you really like it before hopping in whole hog.