Thanks, couple of other questions, and please recognize I'm not second guessing your decisions, I'm just trying to learn through your experience.
What were conditions like? Wet? Dry? Cold? Windy? Deep snow? "Easy" conditions for building a fire, or not so much? And was this in New England somewhere? (I originally posted this in Q&A New England as I want answers specific to New England, but it got moved)
How long did it take you to get the fire going? In the best of conditions, I can't think of a time that it's taken me LESS than 30 minutes to get a decent fire going in the winter, and then it would take some time after that before clothes started drying out. So if home was 40-60 minutes away, it seems like just walking out might have been at least as good a bet?
Were you getting cold as you were building the fire?
Do you think you SHOULD have had a change of clothes? Or should someone in the group have had a change of clothes? Had that been the case, could you have stripped off your wet clothes, put on a dry base layer, socks and fleece pants, stuck some toe warmers to your socks, stuck your socks/toe warmers into a plastic bag, and shoved it all into your (presumably) wet boots as a way to keep your feet warm enough to hike out several miles?